Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Choosing the Perfect Mate....

I believe that everyone has their preferences in men. Short, tall, dark skin, light skin, long hair, locks, big feet, small feet! The list can literally GO ON FOREVER! When you really think about it, women can be the most selective, picky people on this planet when it comes to their mates!
Now, I cannot assume that I know what your preferences are but I definitely know mine. Lets see, I think these might be my must haves: spiritual, righteous, educated (either by life or school), kind, not even an inkling of jealousy, and a hard worker. Now physically, I love: Dark skin, accents, locs, and most importantly a low key dresser that is not afraid to rock a mean pair of pumas! LOL! Ok, so my list pretty much removes at least 70% of the eligible men in America but I cannot pretend that those aren't the traits that I look for in a man.
As I get older, I am beginning to realize the importance of not allowing my likes and/or dislikes to cloud me from actually embracing a decent brother! Oh yes, did I add - I have a very strong inclination towards Black men.
Either way, I don't want what I prefer to block me from meeting a really nice guy that may or may not fit my criteria. However, it is extremely difficult to even notice guys that fall outside of what I want. I mean, men in suits make my stomach turn! I know it is a signifier that they are probably employed and hardworking, but I just see uptight, narrow minded and most importantly a party pooper!
I am beginning to wonder how many of you might fall into this same trap. This idea of the perfect mate. The man with the nice body, nice job, perfect family! Does he really exist? Are we as women missing out on meeting our perfect mate because we can't get over these superficial preferences. Hmmmm....I wonder?!?!?